I Love My Baby… AND I’m Struggling | Why This Is NORMAL in Motherhood with Dr. Margo Lowy

What if the doubt, overwhelm, resentment, and even the “I love this AND I’m struggling” feelings of motherhood were not signs that something is wrong… but signs that you’re normal?

In this deeply moving and NEEDED episode, I sit down with Dr. Margo Lowy, author of the powerful new book Maternal Ambivalence, to talk about the full emotional reality of motherhood—starting in pregnancy. This conversation is profoundly healing and I feel so grateful I had the opportunity to speak with another mother a little further down the road about the real truths of mothering. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, conflicted, judged, isolated, or like you’re “not doing motherhood right,” this episode is 100% for you!

This may be one of the most important conversations I’ve shared this year for pregnant moms and mothers everywhere.

Here’s What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

2:43 – Meet Dr. Margo Lowy & the emotional truth of motherhood
Why motherhood doesn’t begin at birth—but in pregnancy—and how the emotional groundwork is laid long before baby arrives.

6:35 – What “maternal ambivalence” really means (and why it’s normal)
The surprising truth about holding love and resentment at the same time—and why this emotional paradox is actually healthy.

14:43 – “Is this something I’ll get through?” When motherhood feels overwhelming
How to know when what you’re feeling is normal… and why finding the right support system changes everything.

20:25 – The pressure to be a ‘perfect mom’ and the lie of social media
Why the expectation to always be “on” is breaking mothers, how social media distorts reality, and what real community used to look like - and why it's so important to create that now.

33:31 – Inside her book Maternal Ambivalence
Why this concept is so misunderstood—and how understanding your full range of emotions can free you from shame at every stage of motherhood.

42:21 – Letting go of the “inner camera” that judges your every move
How to stop self-monitoring your parenting, flow with your mothering, and lead with kindness and compassion toward yourself.

Motherhood was never meant to be neat, quiet, or flawless—it’s messy, interrupted, overwhelming, sacred, and deeply loving all at once. If you’re pregnant, newly postpartum, or years into motherhood and still questioning yourself… please listen to this episode and I know you will leave with deep breath of relief, maybe a tear or two, and a smile, being able to trust yourself in mothering.

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Links & Resources

• Maternal Ambivalence (The Book!)
• Dr. Margo Lowy's Website
• My Essential Birth Course  
• 3 FREE Exercise Guide 

ALL my love,